THE POWER OF COMPARISON
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HY COMPARISON??
There are many victims of this in the world today
Most teenagers feel inferior to themselves just because of this “comparison”
I HATE BEING COMPARED!!!
Like it hurts when my parents or someone older than me compares me with another person, especially my mates
This can lead to jealousy, anger, strife, and many more
I’m not saying we shouldn’t be compared but not in a volatile manner
It's very normal but there is something we call POSITIVE COMPARISON
HOW TO COMPARE POSITIVELY???
This attribute is common among parents
I would be giving two instances
Instance 1
Mum: Chioma, come here
Chioma: ma
MUM: Chioma, why did you leave the kitchen in this manner, don’t you know you aren’t getting younger, you couldn’t wash the plate or tidy up the kitchen, look at Kelechi her mother has never complained about her, she is always up and doing, do you think you would ever find a man with this attitude of yours, even your husband mother would reject you immediately, just take a look at yourself, you can never do anything without me complaining
Instance 2
Mum: Chidinma
Chidinma: ma
Mum: Chidinma, why did you leave the kitchen in this manner, it’s not meant to be my dear. Take a look at Kelechi, you are not different from her and I know you can do the same. Don’t just do it again my dear. Kindly clean up the kitchen and ensure you don’t repeat the same mistake.
The different mothers compared their children in different manners
One was harsh and the other was calm and polite
Putting myself in Chioma’s shoes I would not be encouraged to clean up the kitchen.
I would feel inferior and very bitter.
As for Chidinma, she would be encouraged to do the house chores only if she’s very reluctant or chooses not to do it
Looking at Chioma's mum there might be different reasons for her frustration, we would look at this in another episode "THE FRUSTRATED MOTHER"
Compare us in a way that we would be encouraged and motivated to do that particular thing we did wrong
Some parents compare their children in a manner that is not appealing
COMPARE US WITH THE RIGHT PERSON!!!
I feel this is very important and most of our parents must understand this and I would love to lay more emphasis on this
Learn to compare us with the right person
For example:
When my mum compares me to Gerald who happens to be my classmate because of his well-behaved manners, the truth about this is that my mum doesn't know the actual identity of Gerald at school or home. My mummy feels he is a well-behaved boy just because he greets her and replies to her politely
Nobody wants a bad impression at first sight. I would never display a bad attitude at first instance. Even I would put up my best behavior. Now the Gerald my mum knows is only the Gerald that greets her. She doesn't know Gerald at school
Before comparing anybody with anyone, you must make sure the person is a good role model for that person, i.e. u must have studied and observed that PERSON before comparing
Also as a teenager or youth when u re been compared to anyone because of a particularly good character in the person, even if the person is detrimental,
Just pick up the good thing in the person then try to adopt that good character and the result would be great.
To end this I would love to say:
Comparison brings jealousy most times and makes us feel inferior.
Try comparing us positively and it would be of great impact to our moral behavior.
#the king’s pride.
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